What do you think of when you hear the word ‘tribe’?
Really?? Don’t be like that… lol
According to Dictionary.com this is what ‘tribe’ means.
Tribe [ trahyb ]
Any aggregate of people united by ties of descent from a common ancestor, community of customs and traditions, adherence to the same leaders, etc.
Basically, a tribe is a group of 2 or more people that kick it together sharing common interests, goals and philosophies.
Like-minded people supporting each other is pure magic.
There’s nothing like it.
To have a safe space with other like minded people where you can apologetically be yourself without judgement is absolutely liberating.
It’s tough to find just one person like this let alone a group of folks who are chill AF.
But the testament of ‘your vibe attracts your tribe’ is 1000% true.
The more you stand in your truth and don’t compromise who you are just to be accepted by low vibe people, eventually you will begin to attract into your world people who think just like you.Rissa
Don’t get me wrong, it’s great to have lots of friends!
In fact a healthy social life is HIGHLY encouraged.
But there’s a certain type of person/people we are ever so lucky to meet who just “get it”.
They get you.
That person gets your corks without you needing to explain yourself.
They support you and your dreams wholeheartedly without you needing to apologize for who you are and for wanting to glow the fuck up.
Above all, they don’t make you feel like you have to dim your light just to make them feel worthy.
That right there is MY definition of ‘TRIBE’.
It’s inexplicable but there’s a mysterious connection that happens with these types of people.
There tends to be no effort in being vulnerable with them because a mutual ‘safe space’ has been created for everyone to be their dope ass, magical ass selves.
History of the Girl Gangs aka Tribes.
Throughout history there have been groups of bad-ass women who exemplify what being a tribe is all about.
How they display a strong support system for each other while standing true to who they are.
They fight, they bicker, they might even talk shit but at the end of it all, the following groups of women all have one thing in common…
Don’t fuck with the tribe.
Joan, Maya, Lynn, Antoinette and even Will.
This infamous group of women are probably one of my favorite girl gang tribes that exude a strong support system. Every single woman (and Will) are 100% their authentic self and the love between each of them is definitely something to envy.
They are all black girl magic going after excellence all the while trying to find their happily ever after are definite reasons to love this tribe.
If you think about it, they’re kind of like the black Sex in the City.
Dorothy, Rose, Blanch and Sophia.
I cannot say enough good things about these women.
Each and every one of them are the complete opposite of the other but that’s their closeness and their bond.
Their brash commentary, their blunt observations and impressive ability to hold each other accountable is not only hilarious but noteworthy.
I can only pray to have one let alone an entire group of like minded women that wholeheartedly care for me while keeping me accountable.
I’m definitely a Dorothy 🙂
Who do you best relate to?
Oh Miss Thelma.
Oh Miss Louise.
First of all, Thelma & Louise is a cult classic and if you haven’t seen it do yourself a favor and plan a movie night because these two ladies will not disappoint.
Now I may not agree with a lot of their decisions throughout the movie but I admire the fuck out of them.
Two beautiful, badass women going on an adventure that leads them into a spiral of unfortunate events but the entire time they were tribe AF.
All the way until the end….
What a classic!
I didn’t say it was an Oscar worthy script but the definition of black girl magic tribe is all there.
They do each other’s hair, support each other at auditions, move together to another city and even try to scam an aging millionaire.
Oh the things you can accomplish when you have like minded people around you.
Carrie, Samantha, Charlotte and Miranda.
Probably one of the most famous girl tribes to date!
If there’s two things all four of these women have in common that everybody knows it’s being successful in their career and being successful in finding love.
Well minus Samantha Jones of course. We all know what her main focus was.
And even still, Carrie, Charlotte and Miranda supported her wholeheartedly on her wild sexual escapades.
That’s fucking tribe baby.
Abbi and Ilana.
Aside from this being one of my favorite shows EVER these two are probably my favorite girl tribe in all of eternity.
Also, I’m really torn to shreds they will no longer be filming any new episodes.
Like super sad.
Abbi and Ilana are two New York native Jewess’ trying to get by with the help of their extended tribe mates Jaime, Lincoln and Mary Jane.
The weed not the person.
Their relationship is slightly co-dependent but in the end they push each other to go past their self set limitations and always stay tapped into their witchcraft.
Not to mention their shenanigans are fucking hilarious.
What can we learn from all these bad-ass tribes?
Even though each and every single one of these tribes is as different as Cactus Cooler and Orange Sunkist there are some definite points they all have in common.
- Unwavering support.
- Holding each other accountable.
- Creating a safe space.
Those three components are what make a tribe successful and beneficial to your glow up.
Being around people who secretly judge you or secretly don’t want you to succeed is low vibe and a sure fire way to block your growth.
Staying true to who you are is HARD. I know that and I applaud you for staying loyal to yourself and your beliefs.
I promise with everything inside of me that if you let go of the people who don’t support you and you’re okay with kind of being solo for a while, you WILL 1000% begin to find people who share your beliefs and start to develop your tribe.
Join in on the Culture Fuzz Conversation.
The founder of Grown Folks Table Radio, Megan Liana sits down with me to discuss our tribe and how our support for each other has helped to overcome self set limitations and keeping each other accountable.