stuck in a rut, now what?

Stuck in a Rut, Now What?

stuck in a rut, now what?It’s been one hell of a week huh guys!? I don’t know about you but I’m feeling the full effects of this Mercury Retrograde. If you’re not familiar with Mercury Retrograde, Click Here to learn more about why your life may have been in a shambles the past couple of weeks. But I’m exhausted, I’m exhausted with the news, I’m exhausted with our government, Carmelo cheating on LaLa, Steve Stephens, Aaron Hernandez, like bruh! And lately my cage has been rattling, forcing me to come to terms with a decision I have to make and I’m exhausted from that. I understand that life changes are going to happen and I’m the first to acknowledge that but let’s be real, that shit is terrifying, not to mention exhausting. We get so used to our routine and the cave we build for ourselves and the people we surround ourselves that we end up feeling ‘safe’ and ‘comfortable’ with this space we’ve created, it’s equivalent to not wanting to get out of bed in the morning because you’re in the ultimate blanket burrito and you don’t want to feel the cold once you pull those covers back. Um, Guilty!! *raises hand* As we develop and learn more about ourselves and what we like, our outlook on life will change as well, our friends will change, jobs, style, interests, you name it and that’s okay. Sometimes we have to separate ourselves from people and situations that are stopping us from growing no matter how uncomfortable or unexpected it might be. There’s a deeper force at work when a crossroad is reached representing the choices we have in our lives. Which road are you taking? Will it be the same path you’ve always walked? Will it be the easy road where you’re not challenged to become the best version of yourself? Or will it be that road less traveled that everyone is terrified to take because it’s hard?

stuck in a rut, now what?

Me? I was always one to take the easy road, and let me stop acting like I don’t still try too. Pfft, I didn’t want to get scrapes or get dirty, nope the easy lifestyle was perfectly fine with me. Totally content with no growing or challenging myself, sitting on the same couch day after day scratching my butt and belching out disappointments to people on IG for living their lives? Yup, oh what a life. But then I started to become restless, I started becoming bored with my every day routine, no change, no challenge, nothing keeping me on my toes, I was stagnant and my entire being was becoming starved. After a lot of digging and searching on what the source might be for my newly acquired restlessness I realized that sitting still was hurting me. Here I was, wishing and hoping for more things and more success but I wasn’t doing anything to change that, I wasn’t doing anything different. Same routine, work my 9-5, sit in my car, smoke weed, get lost on social media, go to bed. Bruh. Just kill me already, it would be much faster. Then I wondered why I was feeling so starved and frustrated, up until a couple of weeks ago I was avidly forming practices and curating a schedule that would help me get back on track. If adulthood has taught me one thing, and taught it to me HARD is that you literally have to be your own parent. It is entirely up to YOU to make good decisions about your life, what you eat, exercising, getting enough sleep and the like. All those things our parents made us do that we scoffed and rolled our eyes at like karate lessons we hated, being threatened by mom to sit at that got damn piano bench until she hears you play that whole got damn song, or endless hours playing catch with a parent or coach to perfect that fast ball, yes that shit was annoying but what we didn’t realize is that our parents were instilling balance into our lives. They were doing us a favor because they knew that in order for us to be well rounded, we needed to be challenged and work hard. Welp, we’re now on our own folk’s aaaaannnddd this is ridiculous. School does not prepare you for this bullshit called life! Wait, how many bills do I need to maintain just to function normally? What do you mean my whole paycheck is gone?! All I did was pay my rent! Yah, no one really tells you or walks you through those sucky parts so again, it’s up to you to parent yourself and grab the reigns of your destiny! Sorry, I can get cheesy sometimes, but the further along I go on this self-development journey, the more I realize the cheese is the best part. The cheese is stinky but it’s so real and there’s a reason why sayings like “take control of your destiny” are still around, because it is literally that easy!

So start with simple things like creating a schedule for yourself, for example, Mondays and Wednesdays I will walk for one hour after work, Tuesdays is laundry day, every Friday I will make sure to schedule lunch with a friend. It could literally be anything, you are the master….. of your destiny. Hehe.

 

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10 Suggestions to Help with Positive Thinking

positive thinking

We have all been there, scrolling through our social media feeds and see all of those people living such happy lives, emphasizing on their small successes and moments of recognition. It’s so easy to fall into that slump of thinking, “When will my moment come? That feeling of being stagnant and having a  fear of never “making it” can be crippling, trust me I know, it’s something I continue to battle with every single day. There are times, more often than not, when I’m cooped up in my room for days not doing anything because that voice of negativity has completely taken over. You know that creepy voice that loves to come in and stomp all over your wave of motivation and momentum? It kind of sounds like this, “What are you doing? Why do you even bother? People aren’t even going to understand what you are trying to do! You should just give up!” Yah, if you sit there and allow that dude to take over your thoughts you will be stuck and you won’t want to move.

So I began to study the lives and strategies of successful people that inspire me and look up too. People like Tom Bilyeu, Lisa Nichols and Tony Robbins. I would ask questions like, did they go through these same obstacles? What did they do to overcome them? If you don’t know who these people are, that’s okay, find someone who you look up to and study them and their lives, the same formula still applies. One thing I found in common with Tom, Lisa and Tony is that it took them YEARS – I mean YEARS to reach the level of success that they have. All three of them started with nothing but adopted ways of thinking that shifted their approach towards obstacles and they have been applying their methods every single day of their life. Things like meditation, positive thinking, creating boundaries and building structured schedules to enforce discipline and follow through are all major factors to their success. Don’t believe me? I dare you to research them, no I WANT you to research them so you can discover some amazing keys to help unlock your journey to success. Long story short, what these 3 have demonstrated and revealed to me is that there is no short cut. Point. Blank. Period. That being said, if you want to start investigating ways to start shifting your thoughts to a more positive manner keep reading on for 10 ways to start your journey.

  1. GET OFF OF SOCIAL MEDIA

I would bet money that you have heard this A LOT, because I definitely have and it actually took me a very long time to accept this as a number one step. I didn’t realize how unhealthy it is to sit there and be so disconnected with from world, from myself. I was too busy letting the internet tell me how to act and look in order to be accepted by people I don’t even like! Like WHAT?? I’m so guilty of scrolling for hours through my feed, looking at beauty and fashion blogs, comparing myself to the drop dead gorgeous girls with all the likes and the swag (bleh). Having thoughts like ‘Oh maybe if I wear that lipstick color I will feel better’ or ‘I just need to buy those shoes and I will be legit?!’ Feeding that type of dialogue to yourself affects you psychologically, so I stopped. I Googled and YouTube’ d ways to try and stop and as a result I no longer look at my phone first thing in the morning, if I catch myself entering the endless rabbit whole of social media scrolling, I instantly stop myself and pick up a book, paint, read, anything to stimulate my mind and get away from the dictator of self-esteem… Instagram. Don’t get me wrong, social media is a gold mine when it comes to highlighting your business or for networking, but just like anything in life, if you abuse something beyond what it’s meant for, it’s no longer healthy.

2. NAME 5 THINGS YOU’RE GRATEFUL FOR EVERY MORNING

This step absolutely changed my life. I got this step from Lisa Nichols, and it was during a time in my life, earlier this year in fact, where I was REALLY struggling to find motivation to keep going. I was stuck and I knew I needed a mental shift because I was sinking back into “the sunken place” (Get Out reference – Whoop!) and when Lisa was talking about her similar experiences with feeling lost and not worthy she explained how she used the concept of starting out her day with grateful intentions. For example, “I’m grateful I woke up today, I’m grateful I get to spend another day with my loved ones, I’m grateful I’ve been blessed with more time to learn and mature” it’s so calming and helps with that “glass half full” mentality instead of focusing on the glass half empty. I noticed I became happier and my mood began to change – it’s an amazing exercise. Even if it sounds fluffy and too good to be true, just try it and let me know if you notice a difference, I would love to hear feedback!

3. MEDITATION

I swear I can feel some of you roll your eyes, and I’m already giggling. I feel you, it took me the longest of times to even sit down quietly and ‘pretend’ to meditate, but I’m telling you, when you are on that desperate hunt for answers, you will do what you need to in order to put yourself in a better position in life. Meditation was another thing my idols had in common, and I told myself I would do everything they were doing, so I sat my tooshie down and, well, began learning to meditate. What I discovered was this is a POWERFUL tool, the things that are revealed to yourself about yourself is amazing. By asking yourself the right questions you will find that you always had the answer, your just have to connect with yourself. Here is an article by Michael Jacobs, guest writer for Entrepreneur.com on meditation and entrepreneurs. This is a great article for beginners.

4. DON’T DISRESPECT YOURSELF BY COMPARING YOURSELF TO OTHERS

I am the #1 person guilty of this, especially with saturation of phony advertisement and glossy magazine spreads with hypersexualized fashion shoots where perfect specimens are standing in the buff making you question your entire being and identity. I took a yoga class a couple of years ago, and while I was holding the cobra pose (strong arm emoji), my amazing instructor at the time caught us looking around the class to see if we were doing the pose correctly by looking at other people. His response to this was “Do not disrespect yourselves by comparing yourself to others.” Right there in the middle of my sweaty pose and with trembling muscles I had a revelation that again changed my life. My path is different from yours, your path is different from mine. Our recipe for success has different ingredients and different cooking times. I truly believe that in order for us to be great, and depending on what we are asking to be great in, we have to encounter some obstacles because it’s going to help shape us and mold us into who we are trying to become. That’s like dreaming of becoming a heavyweight champion boxer and going straight to the heavyweight match without any sort of training. You have to play some matches first and learn about yourself and how you move, what do I need to improve on? I notice this combination works but not this one… it’s a journey of self-discovery and self-development that needs to be tailored to you and your speed. Be happy for those who are ahead of you and you will learn to be happy with yourself as well as accept your specific journey.

5. EXERCISE

I do not need to sit here and talk about why it’s detrimental for your overall health to eat well and exercise. Duh. However, exercise does help give a boost and helps to grease the wheels of happiness. It gets the oxygen pumping through your blood stream. Exercise a great way to start out with creating structure in your life and to get a set schedule going. You can demonstrate and prove to yourself that you can tackle mini accomplishments or micro-goals by completing small tasks and checking them off your list, because let’s be real – checking things off of a list and demonstrating that you completed something is such a great feeling and an amazing motivation booster. Not to mention you just start to look good and feel better because you’re acknowledging your body, taking care of your body and doing the things required to be healthy. Even though I also hate doing it. Bleh.

6. VISUALIZATION

Visualization kind of goes hand in hand with meditation but it’s definitely different. Meditation you are sitting quietly, shutting down your thoughts until an answer you’ve been searching for is revealed. With visualization, you are actively creating a picture in your head of the life you are painting for yourself, right down to the color carpet you want in your back house upstairs loft (Please don’t let me own visuals impose yours, hehe). This can also be demonstrated on a vision board, or a vision map, one of my really good friends is raving about the book Desire Map: A Guide to Creating Goals with Soul by Danielle LaPort who holds your hand on a journey to create and acheive “Your bucket list. Quarterly objectives. Strategic plans. Big dreams. Goals. Lots of goals and plans to achieve those goals--no matter what”

This book serves as a guide in helping you realize and execute your goals. Failure is absolutely not an option bruh. However, this book can be a great aid to help you formulate a picture to start actively visualizing. Another book that breaks down the visualization process is called Life Visioning by Michael Bernad Beckwith. I still come back to this book every now and again for some refreshers.

7. DATE YOURSELF

Interesting concept isn’t it? I can understand how difficult it can be to meditate or visualize goals when you’re not even happy with yourself or even understand who you are. Self-discovery is a difficult and intimate journey that shouldn’t be taken likely and the only way to know what you like is to try new things, to love yourself and accept yourself as you are. Get to know you as you would someone you are romantically involved with. Think about it, while you’re in a relationship or when you’re dating someone, you do everything in your power to try and make that person happy. You become nurturing and attentive, receptive of what buttons not to push. Why not apply that same method to yourself? A lot of times relationships with other people don’t even work because the people involved don’t even know what they want! Go to the movies by yourself, treat yourself to dinner and a movie but solo! Go see that art sjpw at the museum no one wants to go to, embrace your weirdness and don’t be apologetic about what makes you feel happy! Ask yourself, and be completely honest! If I met myself would I want to date me or put a ring on it? Seriously, be 100% honest.

8. HELP OTHERS

So how does something like helping others aid in more positive thinking? It’s quite simple actually, ever notice how you get a warm fuzzy feeling when you do something for someone and you see how happy and fulfilled it made them? That’s because we are meant to give. There is an old Chinse Proverb that goes:

“If you want happiness for an hour, take a nap. If you want happiness for a day, go fishing. If you want happiness for a year, inherit a fortune. If you want happiness for a lifetime, help somebody.”

Scientific research provides compelling data to support the anecdotal evidence that giving is a powerful pathway to personal growth and lasting happiness. Through MRI technology, we now know that giving activates the same parts of the brain that are stimulated by food and sex. Experiments show evidence that altruism is hardwired in the brain—and it’s pleasurable. Helping others may just be the secret to living a life that is not only happier but also healthier, wealthier, more productive, and meaningful.

I don’t know about you, but when I’m able to help others no matter how big or how small, I get such a buzzing feeling of fulfillment and it just feels right. I’m from Los Angeles, probably one of the hardest places to connect with people but I purposefully walk through life with the intention of making sure that whoever I cross paths with receives nothing but warm a reception and a huge smile.

9. CREATE A MANTRA

A mantra is a word or sound repeated to aid concentration in meditation; a statement or slogan repeated frequently. Originated by Hundus and Buddhist. Our thoughts and words are beyond powerful, so powerful in fact that some of you may not even realize. Here is a little exercise, have you ever had a bad day and one bad thing after another after another kept happening? What were your thoughts during that time? Did they sound something like, “Why me?” “What else could possibly go wrong?” “This always happens to me!” Well, believe or not, you are claiming, confirming and inviting that bad energy to keep rolling in. But hey, how are you supposed to think positively when you are right in the eye of a perfect $#!* storm right? That’s where the mantra comes in. A mantra can be anything, and that’s what so great about it! You can tailor several different mantras to fit different situations. The mantra I created for myself and really helps me through those unbelievably tough times is “I am enough. I am love. I am fucking unstoppable.” I say it over and over and over until I convince myself that I’m an effing superhero. I begin to calm down and that warm fuzzy feeling of loving myself comes back. I also have another one for being and staying health, “I am healthy. I am fit. And I know I am the $#!&!”. May not be appropriate for everyone but it works for me!

10. DON’T BE TOO HARD ON YOURSELF

This does not mean to slack off, this does not mean to stop working hard and stop aiming for perfection. But understand that you will never accomplish perfection and THAT IS OKAY! We are human and we are not supposed to be perfect. We are built and structured to make mistakes because that is the ultimate teacher. Life. If you happen to make a mistake, big or small, honor your feelings of horror and sadness or whatever comes with it but don’t allow those feelings to hang around too long. Shit happens. And it’s our job to learn the lesson within the mistakes so we can grow, like a beautiful flower from the manure of our mistakes. I have come to accept myself and my flaws so much that I look forward to making them! I know after that every ‘mess up’ there will be a grand lesson that will only make me more valuable and qualified to help others.

 

Listen, I know what it’s like to be in a consistent cycle of negative emotions and not thinking you are good enough to have a successful lifestyle. Applying some or all of these steps into your practice will make the ultimate difference and I can guarantee it. If you’re not looking for a major change in your life, and you are totally happy with where you are, then this article is not for you. However, if you are at a place where you have run out of options and answers that means it’s time to start applying some new methods into your lifestyle. If what you’ve been doing up until now has been working, you wouldn’t even be on this website. It’s scary and it’s different, do not take your self-development journey lightly because it’s a big deal! I want nothing but success for all of my readers and really truly hope some of these suggestions that helped make MAJOR differences in my life can add the same quality to yours.

Just Got Fired…Now What?

It finally happened. The moment that I have secretly been longing for has finally arrived and I’m at a complete standstill, I’ve just been fired.

We have all been there at one time or another, being fired or laid off. We always sense it coming but seem to never be fully prepared, well at least I wasn’t.

I had been at this job for 5 years and stayed about 3 years to long, completely ignoring my gut feeling that just like a guest overstaying their welcome, it was time go. Nope, I just continued to drag my butt into that office every single morning and continued to try and convince myself that things were going to get better. Of course they didn’t, I was failing to see that my time there has served its purpose and it was time for me to skedaddle.

I remember how I got called into the conference room that morning with the CEO and office manager. It became a mutual agreement that it was time for me to move on and it was so strange because I was actually calm, I was very close to arguing with them but I instantly held my tongue and shifted my thinking, why was I going to fight to be in a place that I hated? What an odd form of torture, so I politely said okay and happily took the exit that was provided to me. I strongly believe that everything happens for a reason and I’m beyond grateful for those five years with that company even though it was like pulling teeth near the end there because, like a lot life situations, I learned A LOT. I learned about myself, about what I want out of life, what I DON’T want and above all I learned to trust my gut. So here I was, 25 years old, no job and only $3,000 in my pocket, what was I going to do? I had rent, a car note and all those other bills that come along with adulthood that make it necessary for you to even have a livable lifestyle that you’re not ashamed of. Up until that point I had been reading a book called Buddha by Osho and if it wasn’t for that book I would not have adopted a way of thinking that allowed me to stay calm and accept my circumstances. (I HIGHLY recommend that book for those seeking a new way of thinking.)

The interesting thing about me being fired from that job is that I literally asked for it by calling it into the universe and voila! No job. I remember walking into that suite every morning and instantly feeling like the color grey, there’s no other way to explain it, it was dull and sucked the positive energy right out of me and my everyday thoughts were “I hate this job, I don’t want to work here anymore” and if you say a mantra long enough it’s bound to come true, and that’s exactly what happened.

But instead of freaking out about losing my income source and balling up into a corner allowing the fear to overcome my thoughts I grabbed onto my positive thinking and held on for dear life. I looked at this as an opportunity, a taste of freedom and a chance to take a step in the direction that I wanted to go. I had enough money to pay my bills in advance for the next month and being the hustler that I am I had plenty of resources to make a quick buck here and there so in reality I was golden. I had a place to live, a car to drive and food to eat, I knew it could’ve been worse. I thank the universe every single day that I was put in such a situation because it showed me exactly what I was made of, especially being on my own at 25 for the first time, never having to look after myself before and having that “safety net” called your parents to bail you out was no longer an option, and being fired unexpectedly (kind of) truly showed me that I was capable of being successful if I DECIDED that’s what I wanted to do. This situation presented me with a decision, do I buckle under the circumstances or do I stand up and face this challenge head on?

I have huge dreams and goals for myself and I don’t see why I can’t be as successful as the people I look up to, and I understand that with every difficult thing I deal with in life is only preparing me, shaping me and molding me into the person that I’m asking to become. So you got fired, okay… think about it, is it TRULY the end of the world? Instead of looking at it in a way that is negative ask yourself these questions and reflect, what do I want out of life? What is the lesson I’m supposed to be learning? What are the next steps I need to take in order to move towards the goal of doing what I love to do for a living?

BossMom: Closing Deals in Dirty Heels – Confessions about Patience and Perserverence

I knew that in order for me to be responsible with our family’s money, I couldn’t just take myself on epic shopping sprees and buy whatever the hell I wanted. I needed to be very patient and wait until the time was right. I needed to train my impulses and control my desires and realize that although we are living in an age of abundance where everything we could ever want is literally just a click and a swipe away, some things are simply not that easy. Anything that is ever really "worth it" will require massive, COLOSSAL amounts of patience and force us to dig deep down into our core and figure out if we are truly willing to scrape up the persistence and patience required to achieve our goals.

For me, the journey to become my own boss had no shortcut. I once read a quote that said, “There is no elevator to success. You have to take the stairs." For me, it became very apparent early on that if I wanted to be my own boss, I needed to take the long way. I needed to take the path that was harder and un-paved. I needed to take the path that didn’t offer cozy resting areas with free water and hot coffee. I needed to take the way that required an almost spiritual form of patience and perseverance in order to arrive at my goals. I needed to realize that even though we are living in a time of rapid growth and incredible medical and technological advancements, it still takes a woman 9 months to create a human and it still takes a bamboo seed FIVE years to become a tree. The bamboo and the baby don't care how fast your Wi-Fi is, or that you can afford to pay over-night shipping on that new gadget you ordered on Amazon, some things simply can't be over-nighted. And that's ok.

Anything that will ever be truly worthy of your time and effort will require prodigious patience seasoned with a healthy portion of faith, and topped off with a heaping ration of perseverance and grit.

Read the entire article at BossMom.me

5 Lessons I’ve Learned from Being Fired

Welp, it happened. You got fired. It sucks. But now what? Go ahead and go lick your wounds, honor those feelings of sadness and defeat and then KEEP GOING. Do no victimize yourself – take your lesson from the situation and move on.

I’ve been fired from two jobs my entire working career. It happens. Sometimes things just doesn’t mix and we are only meant to take something from it and move on. I was usually pretty good about understanding when it was time for me to move on, and please don’t misunderstand me, “job hopping” is not something I advise or something you should even do but I was fresh out of high school and making my rounds in the retail world, from Victoria’s Secret to the Gap all the way to Swatch. It wasn’t until I put on that nice red polo shirt for the German watch company that it had finally hit me. My “F it Point”. Interpret that how you’d like but for the sake of readability let’s call it the “Fed up Point”. That point everyone reaches where they are just over their current situation and need to do something new and different…. fast.

My transition to the watch store was that point for me and I started putting my resume out for office positions. Not the highest of goals but anything was better than retail at the time and not before long I landed my first receptionist gig at a massage clinic and, to me, it was bliss at the time. It was semi laid back, I could wear jeans, it was by the beach and I thought I had made it… and so did my attitude. Long story short, I got one to many client complaints about my “tongue in cheek” dialogue and got let go. Interesting part was I was really good at my job but I had learned a lesson…

  1. The Customer, is in Fact, Always Right

That was a HARD lesson to learn, let me tell you. When you’re in your early twenties you swear you are invincible and literally know and have everything needed to be catapulted to the next level of living in a mansion and taking the yacht out on the weekends. Those were the days when I didn’t think about the in-between, building the bridge to get to that reality. So, anyone who asked me, what I thought was a stupid question, got a (and it still makes me cringe) kind of “tongue in cheek” response. Like, how did you not know that? It’s right there on the menu, can’t you read? When I say “The Customer is Always Right” I’m taking that beyond the face value of the saying. I look at every client – no matter where I work – like someone who literally just does not know 1) the product and 2) why the product is relevant to them. It took me a lot of trial and error to understand how to speak to people in terms of getting them to be open about the company I worked for and how our services were beneficial to them. Here’s a huge free tip that I learned… being genuine went a long way. Which brings me to the second lesson I learned..

2. Be Genuine

Bet you didn’t see that one coming. Look, I get it. We ALL wish those “get rich quick” schemes and gimmicks worked, especially living in an era of instant gratification and everything literally being at your fingertips. However, as the times and ways of living change, one thing always remains the same, being a genuine person. We all can appreciate when we have someone in our lives or meet someone who has nothing but our best interest at heart. As human beings that connection between two people, on a level of trust, is a something that will always be needed and admired. I personally love when I go to an establishment and someone working there makes a great effort to taylor my experience to fit me, trying to ask me questions about what I like instead of telling me what I should like and what I SHOULD buy. There is such a huge difference when you sit back and listen to what the customer/ client is telling you what they want.

3. Be an Impeccable Listener

To this very day, I’m still trying to perfect this one. I’ve reached a level in my career where I now have people working under me and look to me for answers as well as guidance on being successful employees. You can read every manual in the world about running an office and it’s employees but it will never compare to actually doing it. I understand now what is meant by the saying “not everyone is meant to be a leader” because it’s a lot of pressure. It requires a lot of listening and getting to know what each person’s strengths are in order to create the most effective and progressive atmosphere possible. The higher up the ladder I climb the more I’m shutting my mouth to listen because I’m actually learning faster as well as meeting the needs of our clients on a much more effective level.

4. Understanding When to Move On

Again, do not “job hop”. Not including the little side hustle jobs that are for when we need a little extra cash like being a brand ambassador or walking dogs on the side. Those are called “odd jobs” and totally meant to be an intermittent type of thing. I’m saying, the full time or part time jobs that are probably your main source of income, those jobs you want to stay with for as long as you can because it represents how loyal of an employee you are. That comes in handy in the event you might need to put that on your resume to show other potential employers but that type of commitment is hard when you are working at a place you don’t like. For me, if I’m stagnant and I’m no longer evolving, growing in my position or learning new skills to contribute to the company, I start becoming miserable and begin to underperform. I was at a job for 5 years and it wasn’t until my 5th year I finally got a second raise. There was no incentive, I wasn’t interacting with people outside of the workplace, I wasn’t able to actually see what all my hard work was producing, I was literally walking into my small corner of a cubicle everyday with no windows and just punching numbers in a spreadsheet. I should’ve quit two and half years in but I was scared to move outside of my comfort zone. I had my life, my routine and my set income. I was miserable but I was settling to be just that. So, I sat in my misery for 2 and half more years until my bosses finally had enough of my lack luster attitude and sent me off with their best wishes. I was terrified, but it was one of the best things that ever happened to me. What I learned from that situation was I want to always be in control of my discomfort caused by my progression. In other words, I should’ve looked for another job and been pushed out my comfort zone on my own terms.

5. Go with the Flow

In all my years of working, probably about 15 years now, if I haven’t learned anything, I’ve learned this. $h*% happens and that is 100% to be expected no questions asked. I have been through enough cage rattling situations to just accept the fact that my cage of comfort will always spontaneously be rattled for the rest of my life. I’ve shifted my focus on how I’m going to react to what’s going to rattle my cage next. Be ready to move and take a chance, I’ve learned to Love that Fear and embrace change. If I don’t listen to my instincts and understand when to move on my own, life is going to rip the rug out from under me anyway. Either way – life happens, obstacles are presented and with each bump a different part of ourselves is revealed. Without me losing those jobs I probably never would have humbled myself enough to reflect and make my personal adjustments to become the successful person I envision myself to be.

There it is folks, and these are probably something you’ve all heard before. That should tell you something. There is not easy button to this beautiful beast called life and when we begin to admire our losses as much as our victories – our possibilities become endless.