What is fear?
Fear can easily be defined as the feeling you get when your walking down a dark alley reminiscent of a scene right out of Friday the Thirteenth.
It can also mean the feeling you get when you lose your pet and you don’t know if you’re ever going to see it again.
Fear can be that nauseous feeling when standing in line for a rollercoaster and you know all of those crazy loops are going to be such a rush!
While those are all accurate depictions of what the word ‘fear’ means there’s a version of fear that every single person fixing their eyes on this article can relate too.
Fear of moving past the comfort zone.
You know exactly what I’m talking about.
The comfortable and predictable life that we all so proudly set up for ourselves tends to sound a little something like this:
Snooze the alarm.
Brush your teeth.
Style your hair the same.
Grab the same old cup of coffee.
Go to work.
Countdown the seconds until you can clock out.
Go to sleep.
Do it all over again.
This type of life develops that “thank God it’s Friday” mentality and I HATE that mentality.
It’s so damn limiting.
If what I just described sounds remotely close to what your situation is then you DEFINITELY need to read the upcoming 5 steps about how to move past this self inflicted comfort zone.
In all honesty though, it really isn’t entirely our fault for creating a nice butt-groove into our predictable lives.
My entire life it was literally pounded into my brain (then eventually my soul) you are to do the following preferably in this order:
Go to school.
Pick a career.
Go to college.
Take out thousands upon thousands in student loans.
Possibly change your major because your 21 and literally just learning what life.
Find a job in said career (if you’re lucky) of choice.
Find a spouse.
Buy a house.
Teach the same dead end cycle to your kids.
All of that is fantastic if it was still 1965 and factory workers were still in high demand for some odd reason.
But it’s 2019 and the industrial era has phased out a LONG time ago giving us the ability to actually go after what we want without limitations.
There’s one small but HUGE difference that we folks of today have that folks of yesteryear did not have.
Smartphones with internet.
You can start a business, take online courses, meet other people and even sell your old junk ALL on your friggin phone.
There are literally NO excuses other than the self limiting script we constantly tell ourselves.
That being said, here are 5 powerful ways to help you move past fear and out of your comfort zone.
1) Stop Saying “I Can’t” and Start Asking “How Can I”?
There is a lot of fluff going around the internet these days about ‘positive thinking’ that I don’t really agree with.
Positive thinking is not meant to be used as a quick fix or a temporary band aid to get you through moments of panic.
Positive thinking is a way of life.
Changing your dialogue from you cannot do something to asking HOW can you do something will begin to rewire your brain to ask different questions and view situations differently.
This takes practice, patience and above all a lot of self love.
You have been trained to think a certain way your ENTIRE LIFE and genuinely changing your inner dialogue will definitely take some time but it’s not impossible.
Here are some examples of negative thinking and examples of constructive, positive dialogue to take its place.
“I can’t go to the gym because I never have time.”
“How can I start getting to the gym after work for a quick workout?”
“I can’t lose weight, I just love food way too much.”
“I definitely want to start taking better care of myself. How can I incorporate healthy eating into my diet without giving up some foods that I like to eat?”
“I’m to old or not smart enough to advance in my career.”
“What small steps can I take to start making some changes towards my career?”
Changing your dialogue from convincing yourself that you can’t do something to asking HOW you can do something will change your perspective dramatically.
You begin exercising areas of thought that have never tapped into before and with enough practice you will begin to see some extraordinary changes.
2) Create Your Tribe and Establish a Good Support System
Have you ever heard the saying ‘you are the company you keep’?
This is a pretty old school saying heard throughout my entire life and didn’t make any sense until I began seeking out a better version of myself.
I suggest you do the same.
Who do you hang out with all the time? Who do you allow to take up your space and energy?
Are your “friends” just as lazy and unmotivated?
Does your “tribe” allow you to stay in your mediocrity and not hold you accountable to your goals?
I used to have friends that allowed me to be stagnant and encouraged me to not make waves.
Long story short I no longer hang out with those people and over the years I have managed to develop and “call in” like minded people who EMPOWER me to believe in myself when I fall short.
My tribe has become so sacred (both virtually and physically) to me there is no way I could ever lessen my high vibe energy to accommodate anything lesser ever again.
The tribe you curate should motivate you, empower you, hold you accountable and wholeheartedly accept you through all of your failures and accomplishments.
If you don’t have people like this in your life I will warn you now, at first it will be very very lonely and that’s OK.
The weeding out process of low vibrational people in your life is a lonely journey but a very powerful one.
No matter what, stand in your truth and develop strong boundaries and I promise you will begin to meet like minded people who share your new found philosophies.
3) Write it All Down
Writing is quite possibly the oldest and most powerful form of self help.
Journaling, free-writing, spiritual journaling, having a diary or just jotting down your fears and affirmations on a piece of paper can be extremely powerful.
Writing will help you gain a new perspective on your life, peeling back the layers of the emotional onion to get to the root of your distress, happiness and unwanted behaviors.
Journaling can be deeply healing and allow you to set goals for your day, for the next 5 years or even your entire lifetime.
Here’s an exercise for beginners:
No structure. No thought.
Just write what is on your mind or how you feel.
Is it sunny outside?
What do you smell?
What do you feel?
Allow yourself to get lost in your thoughts and if you’d like, email me directly at CultureFuzz@gmail.com to share your testimony.
We are a Fuzz Family tribe after all.
4) Learn to Love Failing
There is nothing quite like falling flat on your face when stepping outside of your comfort zone.
It can be embarrassing and bring up a lot of emotions like shame and guilt.
That’s how deeply ingrained our programming is when it comes to achieving perfection.
I got news though.
When you’re doing something new it is GUARANTEED you will not get it right the first time.
I don’t care how much you study or practice, the knowledge and experience doesn’t come until you actually apply what you’ve learned.
Don’t get stuck being a student.
Don’t be that person on the sidelines watching everyone else take the jump and live life.
One of my favorite authors and motivational speakers Lisa Nichols says it best,
“Jump with your knees knocking and your teeth chattering”Lisa Nichols
The sooner you come to terms with failing the faster you will learn from those mistakes and you will grow much much quicker.
People are afraid to move because of failing and even the word FAIL holds a negative connotation that is not helping anyone but stay in their paralyzing fear.
Putting ourselves through uncomfortable situations will allow us to discover who we are.
5) Tap Into Your Creativity for Pure Joy
I don’t care who you are or where you come from every single one of us has the ability to create.
Whether it’s writing, drawing, painting, dancing in front of the mirror, throwing parties, singing or you love petting ponies find a way to tap into your creative being.
You don’t even have to be GOOD at any of it.
There is no need to be perfect or a professional at anything you create because it is meant for PURE JOY.
Your gift, no matter how underdeveloped, is a part of who you are and neglecting your creative side means you are neglecting the very parts of yourself that are designed to bring you joy.
You are a creator with your words, your thoughts and your actions.
When you tap into your creativity you will discover and develop parts of yourself you had only dreamed of.
Let’s Recap on the 5 Ways to Push Past Your Fear
- Stop Saying “I Can’t” and Start Asking “How Can I”?
- Create Your Tribe and Establish a Good Support System
- Write it All Down
- Learn to Love Failing.
- Tap Into Your Creativity for Pure Joy
Remember the world is your oyster and the 5 ways mentioned in this article to push past fear is only the tip of the iceberg.
The internet is so vast and so limitless there are countless blogs and videos that can help you push past your fears so you can begin to know and step into your better self.
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