I know what you're thinking... how is that even a probable concept? Fear and the word opportunity don't even belong in the same realm.
Or do they?
Learning how to conquer the fear of breaking out of your comfort zone, and doing something new with pure, genuine effort can actually create opportunities for yourself you may never have even imagined. Just by saying yes to something, even though it might terrify you, is the best thing you could do for yourself.
We all know that feeling when we're challenged to break through our threshold of comfort, ... you get kind of panicked, anxious, nervous and squeamish like when you're about to speak in front of a crowd or clicking to the top of a steep roller-coaster right before the exciting/terrifying drop. You just kind of tense up, close your eyes and pray it would all be over already.
Then the 'fun' thoughts start to come in, but Rissa, what if I fail? What if I disappoint people? What if I make a mistake?
Okay, you see that train of thinking right there? Simply by asking those questions in that specific way you are already setting yourself up for failure. You are not mentally or spiritually setting yourself up to receive a gift from the universe, not matter what the outcome might be. It's literally all about your perception and how you look at the situation. First of all, there is no such thing as failing. Yes, there is such a thing as missing your mark, but did you learn something? Did you grow? Did you add value to yourself as a person? If you said yes to any of these questions, you did not fail. You learned. You grew.
As for disappointing people, I will say this as delicately as possible.
Until the day that you die, someone somewhere is going to be constantly unhappy or disappointed with your work. There are so many lost folks out in the world that they don't understand their judgment of other people is a direct reflection of who they are. If people are expressing disappointment in you as opposed to cheering you on for trying and doing something new, find a new tribe. Simple as that, when you grow, the people around you either understand your growth or they don't.
And making a mistake? I hope you do make a mistake! That is meant and comes from the most loving place possible. Again, it is all about your perception of the actual word. When you think of the word "mistake" you are already associating it to a negative connotation. You did something wrong, therefore you are a failure. Makes sense, that's what we were conditioned to think our entire lives, I mean look at school, we get graded on how many mistakes we make and after so many, we literally fail. How is that not supposed to be ingrained inside of our subconscious? Instead, look at making mistakes as a book marker, and instead of saying "omg stupid, you made a mistake!" instead say "oh silly, I see what I did there, now I know what it looks like". Making mistakes is a sign of learning and growth, if you're worried about playing it safe and not making waves then stay right where you are and don't make a splash.
Our brains our wired in such a specific way that it will do everything in it's power to protect us, it's a primal survival mechanism that has helped the human species last this long and the moment we feel hesitant or uncomfortable, regardless of what the situation might be, our brain automatically goes, "nope nope NOPE! I clearly see your uncomfortable, so just don't do it. RETREAT! RETREAT!" We go back into our self made caves and burrito blanket ourselves into disappearance. I know the blanket burrito position all to well.
Let's face it, we are all conditioned to be somewhat of a control freak. The moment we no longer have the reigns to this beautiful crazy beast called life, we panic and are thrown off it's back only to then retreat to the confines of what's safe and familiar to us so we may lick our wounds in peace.
No. Stop that way of thinking right now. Its boring and you're not doing yourself any favors.
Learn to love the fear of trying new things like you enjoy getting tattoos, or sky diving, or first kisses. Approach life with an endless wonder and curiosity like a child discovering color, sounds and taste for the first time. Take every moment in the present as a gift you will never get again. Shift the way that you approach life and use that feeling of fear to guide you along the rocky paths of life. Fear is not only used to get us out of negative situations, it can also be used to get us into amazing life changing ones.
Oh the things you will learn about yourself will amaze you. Tap into your superpowers and explore your world.